There are many reasons why a young, desirable woman might like going out with a guy who’s quite a bit older. Older men are more experienced, emotionally mature, and established than their younger counterparts. They’re also typically more financially secure, and a sugar daddy sure makes a welcome departure from an endless parade of broke man-children.
However, knowing you’re attracted to older men and would love to try dating one is easy. Attracting them can be, too, if you know what you’re doing. Here are a few pointers to keep in mind if you’re looking to become irresistible to a handsome, distinguished older man.
Be emotionally mature yourself.
Although many older men definitely appreciate young, pretty faces, they aren’t interested in dating anyone who still has growing up to do. They want emotionally mature, sophisticated partners who know how to take up space in the world like fully grown women.
Naturally, any lingering childish habits (like whining or pouting) need to go. But you’ll also want to cultivate a reserved air of level-headedness, in general. Be financially savvy, sophisticated, and independent, as well.
Upgrade your appearance.
There’s a big difference between looking youthful and looking immature, so you’ll want to make sure you’re doing the former and not the latter. Older men are attracted to a young woman’s looks and body, but a mature air of elegance is the real secret to getting him to stick around.
That means it’s time to retire the high school-esque styles in favor of elegant, classic looks that flatter anyone. Now is an excellent time to give up habits like partying the night away every weekend in favor of more enriching pursuits, as well. Future older partners will appreciate it.
Be a supportive listener.
Although everyone has their challenges in life, an older sugardaddy is likely to have more of those under his belt than a much younger guy will. He’ll probably come attached to his fair share of emotional baggage, as well. Think exes, kids, and possibly even a divorce or two.
Anyone interested in dating older sugar daddies should be fully prepared to deal with that. Part of that equation means being a good listener who can be the impartial source of support people need once they’ve lived long enough to have a bit of history.
Be confident instead of insecure.
Remember, older men love to be around sugar babies who exude youthful beauty and vigor, but they’re not so hot on the less attractive traits young people can have – like insecurity. An older, well-to-do man doesn’t have the time, energy, or desire to soothe an immature partner through a never-ending string of self-esteem issues.
So don’t be insecure, jealous, over-sensitive, or anything else a person would typically outgrow as they get older. Instead, cultivate confidence and independence. Confidence is infectious and irresistible – a sublimely attractive quality in pretty much anyone. It’s also the best asset you can have in your corner if you’re interested in dating older men.
Be present and engaged.
Everyone knows how off-putting it can be to make time to get together with a friend, family member, or partner only to have the person stay glued to their phone the entire time. So don’t be that person when others make time for you, especially if you’re serious about attracting older men.
Mature, desirable women give other people their full attention when they’re speaking or otherwise looking to have a meaningful interaction. They look people in the eye and show genuine interest in what they’re saying, as they’re genuinely interested in getting to know others. This is the type of person an older man is looking for.
Let your youth be contagious.
One of the things an older man likes most about dating a younger woman is her ability to make him feel like he’s young again, as well. That said, the last thing you want to do is be one of those young people who make older people feel even older still. If you want to find a man who will spoil you it means no teasing an older man about your age gap or complaining if he sometimes seems set in his ways.
Older men do want to feel young again. But they’re still mature, fully-formed individuals who know what they do and don’t want out of life. So let your youth be a little bit contagious and go out of your way to make the older man in your life feel like he’s got a new lease on life. It’s part of what he wants most out of your relationship.
At the end of the day, an older man wants the same things out of a relationship anyone wants – to feel seen, heard, understood, and unconditionally loved for who he is by a partner he knows is his equal in every way. Do you have what it takes?